Its so hard...

I recently dealt with a situation with my son, he came to me for help so that was a great first step on his part. Our situation was mild but I got him all the help he needed. This was over 3 weeks ago and he is doing a great job in recovery. Are there outlets where you are to get him the help he needs? Sometimes being the parent is the worst thing you can do for you child- meaning, we love them and tend to be weak. He is so important to you and anything you can do to help him is necessary, even if that means stepping aside and allowing someone else to intervene or removing yourself from his life until he is healthy. I know it sounds hard but a wake up call is needed before something bad happens. I wish you the best of luck. Keep well, Marie

Thanks Marie for your post. He completed a 5 day detox hoping to get back to work and not lose his job, but work got impatient and demanded more information which my son was not able to get in time. I didn't think they wanted to take him back because of his problem. His boss was very pleased with his work, though. He probably should have just tried to do the 30day rehab while he had insurance coverage and not worry about the job, but its too late for that now that he has no coverage, no money. My son is 29 and we have stepped aside, waiting for the next chapter to start. We been in and out of drug use for the past 10 years. He decides to go to rehab and without insurance coverage and we tried to help pay the way, but we can't do that anymore. Its up to him to decide the path he will take now and I'm afraid its not going to be pretty. Glad your son is doing well. Sandy

Sandy,
I am sorry to hear of your struggles, you are right to step aside- as hard as it feels to do, it is the right thing for him. My son is 19 and had issues with drinking, we live in foreign countries where the drinking age is 18 and boy does everyone drink! It's everywhere but he is doing well now and we will continue to monitor his progress but he also knows that anyhting resulting from his drinking is on him and him alone, that includes grades dropping in college- he will have to pay, being disrespectful in our home- he will have to move out and do on. All you can do know is hope and pray he makes better choices for himself and accept you have done everything a good parent can and now it's time to let go and let be (without guilt). I wish you and your son the best of success. Keep well